*This is an exercise for self confidence I’ve made up. I’m sure others have done this before, but this is to make people realize how far they have come when they feel like things are never going to get better.*
Imagine a younger you, maybe 12-15. Now think of all the things you have learned since you were that age. Yeah, you made some mistakes along the way, but everyone does. Some mistakes might have been much bigger than others, but people can change. Now imagine if you hadn’t had learned what you did from these mistakes. Imagine the type of life you could have been leading right now. Different, isn’t it? What I want you to do is write a letter to your younger self and what you would have wished someone would have told you at that age. I’ll start off with my own letter to myself.
Dear 13 year old Sarah,
Though you may think that you’ll never be pretty like the other girls at school, or that boys don’t like you because you’re not good enough, I’m here to say that you’re wrong. Boys will be boys. Just because you don’t appeal to them now doesn’t mean there won’t be anyone in the future that will value you more than you thought possible. Don’t worry about what boys think, but instead find yourself some friends that won’t turn around and back stab you (seriously, your “best friend” is not really your best friend).
Being the prettiest or the most popular has no meaning after school. Once you’re an adult you’ll find your own style and your own way of doing things that will make you stand out from the crowd. You will never question whether anyone but your significant other likes your outfit or not.
Don’t fall for the first guy who says you’re cute. There is plenty of time before you actually end up meeting the one you plan on marrying.
Most importantly, don’t ever feel like you’ve never accomplished anything in your life. Even the smallest achievements are victories won.
Love, 23 year old Sarah.
Now, I challenge everyone who feels down to help themselves by writing something to their younger selves and really finding out just how much better things are for you today than they were back then.